I spent nearly a decade looking outside for the answers to my healing.

And while I got some relief from each modality, they all fell short.

This was partly due to my expectation that someone else would have all the answers and come to my rescue (so that I could avoid doing the work) and also due to my belief around what healing actual was (that avoiding pain and suffering was possible).

I had exhausted all options.
It felt like I arrived at a dead end.
There was nowhere else to go.
The only way out was IN.

I was the healer I was looking for.

I had the answers buried within.

And at this point, I now had the courage to face what I’d spent my whole life avoiding; myself.

The keys to my healing were:

Awareness – Nothing can proceed without it.Awareness is our starting point.

The simple recognition of where we’re at and paying attention to what’s going on in our mind and body is the catalyst for transformation.

Acceptance – awareness will reveal some uncomfortable truths and bring our shit to the surface.

And once we’re aware, we need to practice acceptance of our current reality and the events that lead to it. Acceptance can be painful but if we can’t accept our reality, we won’t be able to heal.

Compassion is the antidote to blame. Whether we blame others or ourselves for our predicament, compassion can transform our suffering. When we practice compassion towards ourselves we can recognise that we did the best we could with the resources we had at the time.

Forgiveness transmutes anger, resentment and blame into acceptance and peace. Forgiveness doesn’t mean forgetting the past, it’s about releasing the pain and preserving the lesson.

Healing isn’t linear. Neither is it glamorous. It requires courage and patience. If you’re on this healing journey and you’re looking for answers, I encourage you to look within.

I used these 4 keys to emotional healing to alchemise my wounds into wisdom.

Monica xx


Art by Daniel Taylor